I’m still haunted by the graphic images I saw as an 9-year-old girl. They were images of hardcore porn that another 9-year-old girl had dared me to look at after she caught her father looking at those images and watching those videos.

I didn’t know what to make of what I was seeing at first. It was my first encounter with anything that had to do with sex, so naturally it became my view of what sex must be. More than anything, it made me feel shameful and dirty. I knew what I had seen was so very wrong but I didn’t know why or how to explain any of it. I felt as if I couldn’t possibly talk to anyone about what I had seen, so I buried it—along with an array of emotions and confusion—for years.

I wished more than anything that I could un-see those images that—though briefly in front of me—continued to haunt me. I thought that was how a woman’s body should look, so I hated my own.

Then when I got older I thought that is what men must want from women, so I looked to ‘Cosmo Tips’ for advice on how to be ‘What Men Want.’ I grew up with a skewed view of love, relationships, and sex for many reasons, but those images of porn were always an underlying reason that I never felt I could mention to anyone; which gave their effects on me free and un-rebutted reign.

Looking back now, I know that that girl was simply trying to make sense of what she saw her father obsessing over. A father failed to protect his daughter or teach her about the beauty of human sexuality, and I was an unfortunate bystander that was hurt in the process. I have to wonder if that father ever thinks about the fact that those women on the screen are someone’s daughters, too. I also wonder how many other sons and daughters have fallen victim to this skewed first glimpse of sex from a parent’s addiction.

It. Porn. Hard core, soft core; it bombards each of us every day—often going undetected. I remember growing up blushing at the sex scenes that would occasionally make it to the big screen. Now the sex scenes seem to be the norm and a movie doesn’t often make it to the big screen without one or more.

You can hardly scan through BuzzFeed, Snap Chat ads, music videos, magazine covers, or even keep up with the latest fashion trends without seeing traces of the impact this industry is having on our society. Women are being told how to look sexy instead of beautiful, and men are being shown that what they are looking for is ‘fun love’ not true love.

So it comes down to this—porn is everywhere. It’s in our culture and it’s weaseled its way into many of our homes and relationships. But now what? What exactly is it doing to our brains? What is it doing to our capacity to love and our view of relationships? What is it doing to young minds? What goes on behind the scenes of this billion-dollar porn industry? And what is life really like under the façade of being a ‘glamorous’ porn star?

This is where Matt Fradd’s new book, The Porn Myth, comes in. FINALLY, someone is willing to give real answers to real questions that everyone should be asking. No sugar coating and no hiding. This is not a book with a political or religious agenda, this is a book that is simply presenting facts—about this giant that has stayed much in the dark until now—and allowing the reader to choose for himself or herself what the reality of porn truly is.

No matter what your experience level with porn is—whether you can’t go a day without it, or don’t understand how porn could possibly exist—you need to read this book. Men, women, children, it is affecting us all. This book equips you with necessary information and tools for fighting back against the negative effects it may be having in your own life or the lives of those you love.

The book is written in short chapters, each covering a common myth that is believed about pornography, such as “Porn is just ‘adult’ entertainment” and “Married life will cure us of our porn obsessions.” The sincerity of The Porn Myth and the novelty of the stories, insights, and scientific studies found within its pages keep the reader engaged and thinking the whole way through. It looks at the good, the bad, and the ugly; examining all sides of pornography from Fradd’s over three years of research. It provides insights from women who have been porn stars themselves and who help paint a raw image for the reader of what happens on and off the camera.

The ultimate message that this book leaves you with is that love is worth the fight. This book is one crucial step towards greater freedom in our world and is most definitely a huge battle won for love.

So what are you waiting for?

Buy the book now: https://www.ignatius.com/Products/POMY-P/the-porn-myth.aspx

Comments

comments